Tom, Stu & You Podcast
Episode #33 - How To Be A Creative With Peter Sarellas

Episode #33 - How To Be A Creative With Peter Sarellas

July 27, 2020

Welcome to Episode #33 where we are chatting with the amazing Peter Sarellas about how to be a creative. Peter works in Toronto as a professional videographer, and during the COVID lockdown, he has stayed productive by launching a Youtube channel where he teaches people how to make better videos. He’s a funny guy, with a great accent and plenty of stories, so strap yourselves in, as this is a good, light-hearted chat between three guys and their cameras. 

 

Key Message: Just get started. If you put in the effort, you’ll get better over time. 

 

What we talk about in this episode:

  • Finding our love of videography
  • Home videos vs client work
  • Saying peace to business school
  • Comparing yourself to others
  • Value of influencers
  • Finding an edge in the creative field
  • Pros & cons of creative work
  • How to find clients
  • What’s up with working for free
  • What is the creative process
  • Advice for newbies
  • Bullshit education systems
  • Talking about travel stories

 

Who is Peter?

Peter is a videographer and video editor who specializes in sports, commercial, and event-based work. He is currently working in digital marketing while simultaneously operating a freelance video production business based out of Toronto. Furthermore, Peter is actively building a community on YouTube where he shares informative videos surrounding his work in sports media and digital marketing. Peter has his Bachelor of Business Administration in finance with a minor in economics and has also studied media at multiple post-secondary institutions.

 

You can follow Peter’s work at the below links:

Website

YouTube

Instagram

 

Peter’s Quotes:

  • If you’re shooting weddings, talk to the Master of Ceremony beforehand, tell him to pause for a second before he says “you may kiss the bride" on the pause, you know you can get ready. Then he looks at you, you look at him, and it’s like go time.
  • You can look at other people’s work and draw inspiration from it and use it to make you better. You just need to keep that positive mindset and kind of realize that your work is good, ah, maybe it’s not, but you’ll get better. 
  • You always want to retain the rights to display your work anywhere you make your services available, anywhere you market yourself. That clause is always in there, even if you’re working for free, or doing your first shoot ever. 
  • If you make a treatment that says you’re going to have a Lamborghini on set, then your video doesn’t have a Lamborghini, you didn’t live up to the contract you provided, and the client is probably not going to pay you what they’re supposed to.
  • Don’t go to university expecting to learn a whole bunch of stuff, and if you don’t have any skills in that field, and you’re not working to develop them, it’s less likely that people are going to reach out to you for opportunities in university. 
  • From a young age, my parents invested a lot of their disposable income into travel so that my brother and I could gain a more rounded perspective on things. I really feel that helped me be a more empathetic person. 
  • So you three girls, are getting on a boat with a bunch of Cambodian men you don’t know, to go shrimp fishing in the middle of the night. Can I come with you?

Peter’s Guilty Pleasure Recommendations

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Episode #32 - Raising Curious Kids with Kelly

Episode #32 - Raising Curious Kids with Kelly

July 20, 2020

In Episode #32, we have another absolutely incredible guest to share with you, and that’s the amazing Kelly MacAlpine! Kelly is a PHD candidate at Western University, focussing on early childhood environmental education, as well as the brilliant mother of three wonderful kids, one of which we have also had on the podcast, Jessie. Our conversation with Kelly is fantastic for so many reasons, but most importantly, because of the undeniable passion Kelly obviously has for the education of our children. She kept asking us to stop her if she’s talking too much, but as you’ll hear, we absolutely loved hearing what she had to say and we think you will too!

 

A bit of context before you listen: Kelly talks a lot about different pedagogies, including plastics and 'ghosting' pedagogies; pedagogies are just theories of learning which in this case, are applied to early childhood students. She also mentions 'non-human' relations which refer to animals, objects and nature as well as 'shadows of beings' which can be tracks left by wildlife or evidence of their passing through the area. 

 

To summarize Kelly's work as best we can, she studies the interactions of kids with their natural environment, and questions if we should instead be allowing them to remain imaginative and create their own stories of the world around them (eg. when it snows, it's because of a fictional snow monkey) rather than just giving them the "facts" and moving on. Do the stories created by kids actually create a greater connection with nature and therefore make them more responsible and considerate environmental human beings?

 

Key Message: In the name of what?

 

A few of the issues and topics we discuss in this episode:

  • Pedagogical studies (and what that actually means)
  • Thinking about waste
  • Education in the name of what?
  • Cultivating curiosity
  • The power of storytelling and the imagination
  • Response-abilities
  • Climate action network
  • Ruins of progress
  • The fictitious students
  • The power of youth
  • Parenting advice

“The children must engage in processes that move beyond neoliberal goals of productivity and consumption by formulating intentions that will allow them to pursue their curiosity in ways that will not always yield productive outcomes but will ultimately allow them to

build their competence while pursuing their curiosity in purposeful ways.” Witnessing the Ruins: Speculative Stories of Caring for the Particular and the Peculiar | Journal of Childhood Studies 

Further Resources:

 

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Episode #31 - Exploring the Universe with Mubdi

Episode #31 - Exploring the Universe with Mubdi

July 15, 2020

For Episode #31 we are joined by the incredible Mubdi Rahman, an Astronomer with the Dunlap Institute in Toronto, Canada to discuss the value of scientific research and the exploration of the cosmos and human nature. 

 

Key Message: The best of science tells stories, and Love Actually is a brilliant movie!

“Astronomers have spotted the most jam-packed cluster of young supermassive stars ever seen in the Milky Way galaxy, including hundreds of the most massive types of stars that are dozens of times heavier than our sun.” - http://www.nbcnews.com/id/45600315/ns/technology_and_science-space/t/supermassive-stars-pack-newly-discovered-dragonfish-cluster/#.XwjfIihKiiM 

 

Some of the ideas we cover in this episode:

 

  • What is astronomy?
  • Why is STEM communication and development important in school?
  • How do you stay motivated without any guarantee of success?
  • Why astrophysics is important to the everyday person
  • What are some of the challenges of science communication
  • A Picture in a 1000 words
  • What’s up with black holes and dark matter?
  • What role can religion play in scientific research?
  • Why teaching history is important

Further Resources:

 

Full show notes can be found at tomstuandyou.com 

 

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Episode #30 - Why We Should Rewrite History

Episode #30 - Why We Should Rewrite History

July 7, 2020

We’ve made it all the way to 30 episodes! Can you believe it?? In today’s episode, we’re looking at why we should be rewriting history, discussing the fact that history is biased and unreliable, how we can still interpret important historical context despite this fact, and what history has to do with us living in today’s society. 

 

The two main issues we’re covering today: history is unreliable, and we’re only taught a very narrow view of the past

 

Key Message: “The historical memory of a community is its identity. And if for reasons of neglect, ignorance or malice a community's history is trivialized or dismissed, this constitutes an assault on the identity of those who would comprise it.” - Bohdan Kordan

 

Some of the questions we’re considering today:

  • Why is history important?
  • Why is the fact that history is unreliable so important?
  • What are some major events that we aren’t taught in school?
  • How do we know history is only taught from one perspective?
  • How does that impact our lives in the present?
  • Why isn’t removing statues rewriting history?

 

Further Resources:

Righting Historical Wrongs Written by Bohdan Kordan

Why is History Important? An Overview For the Reluctant Learner 

New discoveries that proved we got history wrong 

Alex Rosenberg in How History Gets Things Wrong 

Statues are not history’: considering the removal of Sir John A. Macdonald 

 

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Episode #29 - A Labour of Love with Hannah

Episode #29 - A Labour of Love with Hannah

June 29, 2020

Welcome, welcome, welcome to Episode #29! We're joined by the wonderful Hannah to discuss all things political with a surprise focus (lol) on the left. As someone heavily involved in the Labour political party in the UK, Hannah was the perfect guest to have on to discuss the failings of the left, in particular the historic loss in the 2019 UK election, but also where the left goes from here. Although much of the conversation was centered on the political environment in the UK, much of the lessons Hannah has to share can be applied to politics around much of the Western world. There is a reason this has been our longest episode yet, so please, sit back and enjoy a frank discussion about our broken political system. 

 

Key Message: We need to be better at creating a story that defines the path to a better future, one of increased solidarity and empowered communities. 

 

Some of the topics and ideas we cover today:

- how do we get people interested in politics

- the issue of political alienation

- constructing a shared goal & building solidarity

- what's wrong with a conservative government

- importance of effectively utilizing technology in political movements

- review of UK's Labour Party 2019 election loss

- the power of storytelling & clarity of vision

- rising above "dark side messaging"

- leading the change & empowering people

- politics of the future

- democratization of the workplace

- a broken political system

 

Further Resources:

- The Political Brain: The Role of Emotion in Deciding the Fate of the Nation 

- Who Thought This Was a Good Idea?: And Other Questions You Should Have Answers to When You Work in the White House

- Making the future: a new software for the Left 

- Labour Together: Our party must find the humility to listen and learn

- 2019 Election Review 

- How can we build a 21st-century Labour Party? – LabourList

 

Full show notes can be found at tomstuandyou.com 

 

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Episode #28 - #defundthepolice

Episode #28 - #defundthepolice

June 19, 2020

Welcome back to the Tom, Stu and You Podcast! It’s Episode #28 and we’re discussing the slogan #defundthepolice which is being protested in streets across the globe. As two white guys with incredible levels of privilege, it’s an idea we had never really considered before a few weeks ago. However, BIPOC (Black, Indigenous, People of Color) activists and researchers have been advocating for the idea of abolishing law enforcement for decades. So what do protestors mean when they say ‘Defund the Police,’ what would that even look like, what alternatives are they suggesting and why are people hesitant to consider it as an option? Listen in to learn more!

Key Message: Defunding the police can free up funding that we can reinvest in services that provide real safety and support throughout the community

Some of the topics we discuss in this episode today:

  • History of policing
  • What does defund the police mean?
  • Why do we think about police the way we currently do?
  • Copaganda
  • Prison Industrial Complex
  • What would replace police if they were defunded?
  • Shouldn’t we implement more education and reforms instead?
  • #8toAbolition
  • 8 Can’t Wait
  • What about theft, violent crime etc.?
  • Restorative justice
  • Stick vs Carrot

We also want to stress that just listening to our podcast, or just receiving news and opinions from other white people, isn’t enough. We try to introduce ideas to you, our audience, that we feel are important, and we try to present them in a way that we understand so that hopefully you too can understand. We are part of the problem, we are part of the echo chamber though, so please, please, especially if it makes you uncomfortable, but please click on some of the links we’ve listed in our show notes and on our website, diversify the media you are consuming, consciously, frequently, and consistently analyze your awareness and reflect on your emotions and decisions. 

 

It isn’t a black person’s responsibility to educate white people constantly on these issues, but BIPOC voices should be centred and focused on, in the discussion. Their stories about policing and their understanding of the systemic discrimination rampant throughout our society should be believed before white people’s, and that when we talk about defunding it should be because of black stories, not because of white will. 

Further Resources:

 

I just want to say, before we go, if you’re like I was, not really sure where to start, unsure about what it means to be a white ally, how should you think, behave & feel about the current situation unfolding before us, I highly recommend you start by going to whiteallytoolkit.com. “The White Ally Toolkit/Ally Conversation Toolkit helps anti-racism allies do their part in the fight against racism by empowering and equipping them with best-practice communications skills based on listening, storytelling, and compassion.” White Ally Toolkit 

 

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Episode #27 - Embracing our Freedom of Expression to Talk Censorship

Episode #27 - Embracing our Freedom of Expression to Talk Censorship

June 12, 2020

In Episode #27, Tom and Stu are discussing the concept of Freedom of Expression and Censorship. Now more than ever, we must be cautious of overreach by governments and technology companies, as they look to combat the rise in misinformation amid worldwide protests, civil uprising and the COVID-19 pandemic. Our freedom of speech and expression is a basic human right, however, it is clear that technology companies aren’t doing enough to protect individuals and society at large. As more and more pressure is placed on these institutions, to take responsibility for moderating the content on their platform, we find ourselves walking the tightrope that is democratic society’s requirement in allowing for open debate while also protecting vulnerable communities & promoting equality for all. 

 

Key Message: To protect our basic human right to freedom of expression, we must ensure TRANSPARENCY, CONSISTENCY, CLARITY & PRECISION is inherently embraced in censorship policies within both government & technology institutions

 

Some of the questions and topics we cover throughout the episode:

  • What is freedom of expression?
  • What is censorship?
  • What isn’t meant by freedom of expression?
  • Free speech vs hate speech
  • Why freedom of expression is fundamental to democracy
  • The United Nations framework for protecting human rights
  • Facebook Moderators 
  • Difference between Government & Technology company obligations

 

Full show notes can be found at tomstuandyou.com including further reading resources on this topic. 

 

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Episode #26 - Being Better Feminists with Kaley and Sarah

Episode #26 - Being Better Feminists with Kaley and Sarah

June 1, 2020

Wow! Do we have a treat for you in Episode #26?? We're joined in this episode by the absolutely incredibly Kaley Ames & Sarah Sahagian to discuss being better feminists. These two amazing women are co-hosts of a brilliant podcast on modern dating called You Do You: A Dating Podcast, and both have fascinating education and work experience in the feminist arena. This is a topic that Tom and Stu could never feel able to weigh in on with our own opinions as it's not something we face personally, our privilege is very much recognizable, so we are very grateful for both Kaley & Sarah for having this conversation with us. 

 

 

Key Message: Feminism is for us all, as we look to pursue equality and fairness in a better world of tomorrow. 

 

 We cover some pretty interesting topics in this one conversation:

- What is feminism?

- A feminists approach to dating

- The role of socialism in the feminism movement

- Harm reduction vs revolutionary change

- Virtue signalling

- The impact of the education system on feminist values

- How the patriarchy affects men

- Progressive mentors

- The power of words

- Micro-aggressions faced by women in daily life

 

If you'd like to take control of your love life and listen to a hilarious and yet very informative podcast on modern dating, please check out the You Do You: A Dating Podcast co-hosted by both Sarah and Kaley!

 

Full show notes can be found at tomstuandyou.com 

 

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Episode #25 - We’re Being Hacked by Tech Companies

Episode #25 - We’re Being Hacked by Tech Companies

May 29, 2020

We’ve made it to 25 episodes, well on our way to our target of 100! To celebrate, we’re talking about one of the most fundamental issues facing our society, how humans get hacked by technology companies and why that matters. It’s a conversation that follows on from Episode #22 - Always Connected, but this time, we dive deeper into how these technology companies actually grab and maintain our attention, why that impacts the direction society takes, and how do we fight against it. We’re talking about societal-wide manipulation of the human psyche, resulting in unintentional changes within our personal lives that goes against what we think we are actually looking for.

 

Key Message: We can’t win the fight against a supercomputer every time, but we can become more conscious of our own vulnerabilities to mitigate their influence

 

A summary of our conversational pathway:

  • Definition of The Hackable Animal
  • How technology companies hack our subconscious
  • Why is this a bad thing for me?
  • What this means for society in general
  • What can we do for society to ensure we head in the right direction
  • What can we do in our personal lives to better take control

 

Full show notes can be found at tomstuandyou.com 

 

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Episode #24 - The Joys of Modern Dating with Heather and Katlyn

Episode #24 - The Joys of Modern Dating with Heather and Katlyn

May 25, 2020

For Episode #24, Tom and Stu are joined by the wonderful Heather & Katlyn to talk about the joys of modern dating in the 21st Century. We get the girls to share with us the challenges they face using dating apps, what they look for from a guy, and how ghosting isn't as carefree as it seems. 

Key Message: Dating is hard, and apps don't make that easier

Some of the topics we touch on:

- Meeting on dating apps

- Being a different person online

- How well do you know yourself?

- How good is an algorithm?

- The Paradox of Choice

- Finding "the One" versus finding "a One" and making it work

- Why are we on dating apps?

- Being ghosted

- What makes a good profile?

- Being a strong, independent woman

Further Reading:

A funny read on the current state of modern dating can be had here: 

Preview — Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari

11 Things We Learned From Aziz Ansari's Modern Romance 

  1. People used to just marry the nearest decent person.
  2. They were also more likely to settle for companionate marriages.
  3. But now, modern love-seekers are hyper-focused on finding their soulmate.
  4. “Emerging adulthood” also means people are getting married later and later.
  5. Technology is making us too picky.
  6. Text and instant messaging suuuuuuuucks. (Makes us lazy)
  7. The “secretary problem” is killing romance. (Never actually making concrete plans, no commitment to meeting in person)
  8. Nothing kills a lady-boner like vagueness…
  9. …except for maybe poor spelling and grammar.
  10. Most dudes are bozos…
  11. …but there are still some non-bozos left!

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